Monday, April 28, 2014

Life Changes update

The move this weekend was exhausting. I was running on no sleep, Hubs was fighting with Mom, and nothing was packed. The packing is definitely my fault. I knew that there would be some arguing, but I determined that I will never leave my Mom and Hubs together to accomplish a big task without being there myself. The same thing happens every time, and although I can multitask, trying to get two people to stop arguing while I'm miles away is ridiculous.

We have the basics in the apartment at the moment, and will be packing more over the next week to take to storage or the new place. But since we "moved in" on Saturday, I've had this feeling of dread that we are staying in a hotel for a few days, then going right back to the townhouse. I know it's irrational, but I just can't get it to go away. Hubs has been trying really hard to remind me that we are at home in our new place. I hope it'll go away when we turn the keys in next week.

Spike is a little weary of the new place. He won't go into the kitchen. We're not sure of his reasoning, but we had to move his water bowl out of the kitchen in order to keep him hydrated. He also doesn't like how many people he can hear through the walls. He's only really known one place, and everyone was pretty quiet. I know he needs time to adjust like I do.

On top of the move, Hubs has to get a wisdom tooth removed. It was scheduled for this Wednesday, until he decided to get sick. We had to reschedule to the end of next week. I hope he can handle the pain for another week. I'm not going to try to find another surgeon because of how cheap this one will be. When I had a consultation with a different surgeon a few years ago, it was going to cost over $900 to remove a tooth. With this doc, we're only paying $277. When I've got the extra cash, I'll be heading to the surgeon to get one of my teeth removed as well.

I think that's pretty much everything important lately.

Tuesday, April 8, 2014

April's Goals!

Goals, Goals, Goals.... It's time for my April Goals! But a recap of March first.....

March Goals:
- Work an average of at least 6 hours a day so we can save up for our move at the end of April - Sorta. I've been doing 5-8 hour days, depending on how my body feels.
- Find a place to move to. - We did! It's an efficiency halfway closer to work!
- Make something healthy and yummy for this month's PCOS group meetup - a picnic potluck! - It got cancelled due to weather. 
- Start working out again. - Ugh, no. No excuses, just lazy.
- Continue the slow changes in my diet for success - I've been eating better and worse.
- Visit my bestie - We did! Went to see one of my nieces play in her first t-ball game!
- Take Hubs outside city limits so he can set off fireworks for his birthday - No, we sat at home, and didn't really do much. 
- Completely ignore my 26th birthday. That was easy. I didn't do anything because I wasn't really excited about it.
- Start packing for the move - Does one box count as packing? I'm going to say yes, and make it a goal for April too.
- And there are sooooo many birthdays! - Got to spend time with my dad and sister finally.

Overall I did pretty well, so I'm satisfied!

April - This is going to be a pretty long list of things, but I'm certain most will get finished, because they have to lol.

- Organize and decide what large items will be making the move
- Finish packing everything
- Start taking things we won't be moving into the new apartment to storage unit
- Surprise my niece at another t-ball game
- Continue to increase my usual work hours
- Clean and repair any issues that could lessen our returned security deposit
- Get rid of all the crap in the pantry

Join us in the link-up! Head over to Angie's blog to join!

Monthly Goals

Monday, April 7, 2014

What's good about being child-less?

Infertility Awareness Week is coming up, and even though I typically write some post for it, I don't want to do that this year. What's my reasoning? I'm continually finding reasons why I should not be a mom. Health issues, money, overall life changes.... So this post is about why I'm OK not being a mom. I've written many posts about why I want to be a mom. This is the opposite side of the coin. It's surprising how your plans, ideas, dreams, change as times goes on. I remember my dad telling me that I should get too attached to a boy because my life would change by the time I was 25. What I wanted as a teenager wouldn't be what I wanted in my life after I got older.

He was right. I wanted to be done having kids by the time I was 25. Now, here I am, 26, married, no kids, great job, and the last year has really showed that I've changed. I don't cry about our infertility anymore. I can play with babies and not be upset that I'm going home without them. I'm sure my meds are helping me think clearer, and that's a really good thing.

So here are my reasons why I'm starting to be okay childless.
- Less money spent on food
- No giant birthdays or Christmases
- Ability to make crazy decisions, like moving into an efficiency to save money
- Less gas costs because we don't have to have a bigger car. We could even get a two-seater if we didn't have a dog lol
- Don't have to worry about finding a babysitter for date night
- we don't have to plan kid-friendly vacations
- No worries about getting kids to school on time, no dealing with their teachers.
- Less stress about having enough money
- No one tries to wake me up in the middle of the night
- Never have to worry about being in too much pain to take care of kids
- No need to stop medications in order to be preggo or to breastfeed
- No need to baby-proof our home
- More time and money to volunteer with charities
- Only have to worry about Hubs or I getting sick

I could make this list longer - but I think I've made my point. I still love babies and kids, I just don't need any of my own to be happy. James is still coming to terms with not being a parent anytime soon, but I didn't change overnight and neither will he. I've been working on changing my life to be happier in the present. It's been a long road, but I can finally feel some relief about our situation. Maybe we'll have kids in the future. Maybe we won't. I'm not completely over being child-less, but I'm not as weepy about it as I used to be.

Are you child-less? Did you choose to be, or did your situation force you to be? What have you done to change your attitude?